Sometimes the hardest thing we have to do in life is to let something or someone that we care about go. You have to know when its the right time to walk away and say goodbye. Its that journey to the knowledge we don't want that can so many times be the roughest road to travel.
I've been walking a pretty rocky road. My body, mind and soul are tired. I want to rest...I need to rest. I'm taking a break.
Peace to you all, God bless and have a wonderful spring!!
“I always savored the moment I told someone I was a dominatrix,” she explains. " ~ Melissa Febos
However, something about this review irked me, maybe it was the reviewer's choice of words, like 'depravity,'
Did I enjoy hurting people? Sometimes. But not simply for the sake of their physical pain. I couldn’t fathom hurting someone who didn’t want it, but how many people get to experience the moral loophole of hurting someone who wants to be hurt?...As I crouched on that bathroom floor, held that man’s head beneath the water, I experienced a kind of transcendence. It was that utter alienation from self, a loosening of the glue that made my reality whole. It felt both horrific and triumphant. ~ Melissa Febos
Here's what the reviewer said:
The raw descriptions of depravity can be astonishing—in the session detailed above, held in one of the dungeon’s “medical rooms” (complete with “examination tables, mirrored walls...proctoscopes and stethoscopes, rolling wheels with spikes and pincers, clamps, syringes, thermometers, tongue depressors…”),
To those who don't understand the power dynamics in bdsm scenes, what happens during the course of one may sound depraved, perhaps even envisioning a dominatrix brutalizing a client then kicking him out after taking his money. *shakes head* It's NOT so. It's called consensual power exchange.Is it a good review? Yes and there are MORE good reviews.
I"m sorry i posted one blog today, but after reading about that nanny who abused a baby, and was caught on video..i simply must blog again..i read and hear about case after case of child abuse, neglect, and even murder..and many of these situations the parents are the abusers, neglecters, and murderers..and it's usually no accident..and i ask myself..God can see all..He knows what will happen before it happens..why o why does He allow them to have children and someone like myself and my husband were not given that opportunity? This is a question that i will ask til the end of my days..to hold your own baby in your arms..looking at her/him after birth..thinking i made this..something i never was allowed..only glimpses i had of mine were them being carried out of the room dead..which leads me to another question..God knew this would happen to me..so why was i allowed to become pregnant at all? sorry to vent..this is a sadness that even after all these years, will never leave my soul..
I lost a lot of respect for someone last night. And it's sad, because while I still think this person is an overall good guy, my respect level for him took a nose dive.
We had a conversation about an event he attended, and he crowed about it, mainly because he got laid lot at the event. However, the organizers of the event are problematic. To the point that the organizers are an example of a lot of things that are wrong and dangerous about the BDSM community.
This is someone who has been involved in the BDSM scene for probably upwards of 15-20 years, has seen a lot and knows a lot of people. On the whole, this person has a pretty good reputation with some of the older guard of the scene while younger folks don't know him all that well.
He's very familiar with the organizers of the above named event. To the point, they all used to be quite good friends. But he saw, first hand, what the organizers did to people. The threats, the unsafe practices, the bullying, the outing. He's seen a lot of it. Even helped put several people back together after it was all done.
So I asked him, how could he continue to support an organization which he knows first hand has committed egregious practices, harmed a number of people, caused immense bullshit. I asked him does he think that his attendance of the events shows a measure of support for the organizers.
He said to me, "Well, yeah, I see it. But my dick doesn't, and that is who I listen to."
While I applaud his honesty and laughed, I said to him that I can't respect a position like that. This person has no problem getting laid. And I don't think the prospect of new or interesting pussy is enough to ignore the harm that this organization has done to so many people in our community.
He gave me a bunch of justifications, but it came down to the fact that it is a good event where he can always get laid. And for him, that is reason enough.
During the conversation, I was reminded of a posting I read a few weeks ago where someone was talking about the problems with certain individuals in the community, people who are problem and dangerous players, and why it is problematic that these individuals are continually invited to present at events and give education workshops, all because they have built up a good name for themselves. This posting went on and on why this was a problem.
And I thought to myself, "You're full of shit." Because this same person, while calling out the community for supporting certain individuals (I am fairly certain it was aimed at one person in particular), is a regular presenter at the above referenced event. The organizers of the above referenced event have caused MUCH more harm than the individual (I think) he was referring to. But the event pays it's presenters well, and gives them some nice little perks. And, as many people say, "it's a really good event."
Ideally, I know that people are going to do what they are going to do. But I guess I am just really tired of hearing people talk out of both sides of their mouths. I wonder what would happen if the person I referenced originally went to the event and didn't get laid. Would that cause him to stop being supportive of the event?
It's funny. For as much as people talk about issues of honor and respect and integrity and this community, I am learning that is really comes down to money and sex. If you can get enough money, people will present almost anywhere. Or if you can be sure you are going to get your brains fucked out, you'll go to almost any event.
Never mind that by giving these organizations our money, we are basically allowing these types of individuals to act with impunity, simply because they put on a good event. By financially supporting these events, we say, "I don't give a fuck that you have hurt people and destroyed the lives of others (or attempted to), just give me a good event where I can have fun!"
Because it's all about our own personal fun. It's all about having a good time. Nothing else matters. Other people don't matter. The harm that is potentially committed doesn't matter. We justify it away. We turn a blind eye. We ignore things. We don't look critically at these issues. We talk to the people affected, we hear all the stories. But we don't care. Because at the end of the day, what matters is what is in our bank account or that next good orgasm.
So it's kind of sad. I will never look at this person the same way. He always presented himself as something else to me. And while we all have our faults, and again, I respect his honesty in stating his intentions, with the first hand knowledge that he has, that he can throw it all away for the prospect of pussy, well it's sad.
But what's even worse is how many other people will do the exact same thing.
2. I will not try to manipulate my Dom. I will not push to make a scene (Dom’s edit – or us in general) go the way I feel it should. In other words, I will not top from the bottom.
I broke this one all to hell .. Last week when I heard you wanted to take you new interest canoeing, and we courting in a canoe (we didn’t date) and I didn’t want you to do that with your new interest alone, I’m ok with all of us. When I felt you were not listening to my feelings, I went and told her my feelings about this.
Sir, I am very sorry that I do this, I will work on this behavior, Sir
You have simply left me speechless, Querida..that video is super awesome..it must have taken you forever to complete it..i had to write a blog, acknowledging how wonderful i think you are and what a dear friend you have been to me..i love that video..i want to keep it forever...i love you..
DSF presents: "SEXy is Back" BDSM play Party
*This Friday, March 26th at Paddles
*Time: 9:00 PM - 3:00 AM
*Address: #250 West 26th Street (Bet: 7th/8th Ave)
18+ years old to attend.
The party will include the intimate BDSM play atmosphere people crave; including Party hostesses and Dungeon Mistresses and Masters. No need to worry about your scenes being interrupted.
We will provide complimentary yummy food and delicious snacks. Don't worry health nuts, as always, we never forget you.
BYOB is welcomed.
Price:
DSF/Affiliate Members: Males: $30 and Females: $10
Non-Members: Males: $35 and Females: $20
PRICE BREAK NOTE: Sexy dressed people bring the Oooze into a party.
Hence, we will reward you for looking good. If you'll attend dressed sexy (we determine, not you), you'll get a price break at the door. In addition, we will award door prizes to the sexiest male and female outfit.
DSF parties rule and people always have fun; some even met long term partners. For those who never been to our parties before, the DSF management always tries to match people up. So, if you're single looking for a play partner(s), or a couple looking for a couple/3rd person, come on down. In addition to having a good time, you just may meet your play or life partner.
If you are new to the scene, this is a perfect way to get introduced to it all, in a friendly non pressure situation. Our sexy party hostesses will show you around the club. DSF provides the most relaxing atmosphere for you to enjoy at a SM gathering. Usually about 50% of our crowd are first time attendees. You may come alone, but you won't feel alone.
If you are an experienced player, this party will have strict guidelines pertaining to leaving "energy" room for you to enjoy, and most of all, not have your scene(s) interrupted.
Lastly, as always, DJ Dom will have awesome music (ambience, techno, gothic, industrial, new age, funky trip hop, and more) for everyone to enjoy.
We're looking forward to seeing you at this terrific party.
