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Midnight Garden
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Lady_Winter |
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Jun 07 2012, 7:08 pm |
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I recently joined this site and am enjoying myself so far. I also belong to other BDSM sites and a recent topic has come up which has provoked a slight rant on my part, which I will share and open to insights and feedback;
Recently I introduced a friend to another BDSM Lifestyle social site, who entered that site's chatroom only to be accosted by a barrage of opinions invalidating Him as a Dominant because of His age; which is 18 years old.
Now I have known this young man since He was a child and I have watched Him grow up. He has always been mature, responsible and honorable in His pursuits and interests. Naturally, when He voiced His interest in BDSM there were concerns and He was persuaded to wait until the legal age of consent, which He did. However, He spent that time, not idly, but reading and learning all He could on His own. When He came of age, He devoted Himself to instruction and commitment to sane, safe and consensual practices. When He completed His initial training, He joined a local Community of BDSM practitioners so that He could continue to learn and grow as He took this journey. The group uses 'Lord/Lady' as titles, as opposed to 'Master/Mistress' and that title was conferred upon Him. As a point of honor and respect, He voiced His preference for His given title in the chatroom and was chastised for His youth and perceived arrogance. I was mortified...
I have known many, many Dominants over the years, some in their 50s and 60s who have neither the maturity, nor the responsibility to be Dominants. However, until they give me cause to DISrespect them, I give them the basic respect I would give to any Dominant as a peer. I do not hold with the notion that age is any indicator of capability. The practice of BDSM is on on-going process of learning and growth, in my opinion. Furthermore, for ANYONE who belongs to a group that is routinely misunderstood and judged because of bias, to arbitrarily dismiss the journey and qualifications of another based on age, appearance, gender, etc. is unconscionable to me.
I do not dispute that experience can, and generally does, enhance understanding and promote wisdom in any activity; However, that fact does not negate the fact there are competent, sincere, capable people who are a credit to 'our shared interests' from the very beginning of their journey! That is to be commended, as they will only improve - not denounced or rejected.
Thanks for listening,
- Lady Winter
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